Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart. --Psalm 37:4
Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.
What has made you resistant to fulfilling your mate's desires in the past? How would it change your relationship if they knew their dreams were a priority to you? What desires are you attempting to meet?
Havie is a man of simple desires. He wants a family, a career he can excel at and be proud of, and he wants to be well respected in his home and community. Of course there are other things that he desires, but nothing extravagant or unattainable. I am committed to doing everything I can to see those desires met.
I've always wanted my husband to have everything he desired, but there have been some desires I have refused to help him obtain. It is totally selfishness on my part. I am willing to admit it. I've watched a particular family member of mine give everything she has in her marriage of over 50 years- and still be totally unappreciated. I am so fearful of finding myself in a similar situation.
I know that he will be surprised to see me trying to make some of his desires come to fruition. He will probably be a little wary at first, but I imagine that it will make us closer. I hope he will see that I care and I am willing to do anything for his happiness.
Besides some of the things I've already talked about like putting him through college and starting a family- I am going to do a better job of showing him respect in our home. That is going to take on several different forms, but at the end of the day- just being a better wife.