tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645488627416278666.post3765877188955094319..comments2013-03-26T11:33:22.855-07:00Comments on La Vida Subida: EediotUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645488627416278666.post-75912089979441728192010-05-28T09:12:08.948-07:002010-05-28T09:12:08.948-07:00I know, Brandi! You're doing just fine, and I...I know, Brandi! You're doing just fine, and I so admire how you and your husband are really fighting to make a life together. Hang in there, pray a lot and keep working on your marriage. It is so worth it. <br /><br />As for your own self-control, that comes with time. Self-control is actually a habit. As such, it takes a while to get it established. In general, about a week for every year of age. So don't beat yourself up! Practice the habit, and it WILL become ingrained.<br /><br />I'm so proud of you, Brandi. Fat is hard. Thin is hard. You've chosen your hard, so go get it!<br /><br />BIG HUGS to you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645488627416278666.post-6992040656024533352010-05-28T07:13:06.371-07:002010-05-28T07:13:06.371-07:00Angela,
Thank you for your comment, and I do unde...Angela,<br /><br />Thank you for your comment, and I do understand where you're coming from. I am not saying it is my husband's fault! I thought I made that really clear. I was upset with MYSELF for not having the self-control. I'm not trying to punish or criticize him at all.brandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08244801121522508271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645488627416278666.post-32458000503367516482010-05-28T06:21:00.576-07:002010-05-28T06:21:00.576-07:00Whoa! Let's think a minute here...it's no...Whoa! Let's think a minute here...it's not that your husband "won't" help you, or that he has purposefully schemed to trash all of your hard work - he doesn't realize what he's doing. <br /><br />Just like the family member drinking around the alcoholic, the offending party probably doesn't realize what they are doing, ESPECIALLY if they're a guy.<br /><br />Men are simple. Seriously. They function on three things - 1) recognition that they are wonderful; 2) uh, as to not offend, I'll use the term "Whoopie"; and 3)food. Their brains are not hardwired to think the way that women do, to analyze situations the way that we do. Men do not see food as the enemy, and truly do NOT understand our obsession with it. <br /><br />So yes - you will have to be in control of your own self, but it isn't your husband's fault, and he isn't to be punished or criticized, or thought to be the enemy to your diet. Just love him the way he is, and lead by quiet example. He will eventually figure it out on his own, and then you can praise him for helping you. And reward him with the new, sexy you. ;)<br /><br />Angela Pea - Married for 25 YearsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645488627416278666.post-48351805416650702932010-05-27T20:40:46.230-07:002010-05-27T20:40:46.230-07:00My Hubby is the same way. As soon as I told him t...My Hubby is the same way. As soon as I told him that I am trying to lose weight, he started to tempt me with all kinds of delicious, sugar-coated, chocolate-y goodness. I finally called him on it, and he said that he wasn't trying to sabotage me, he just thought that I would be offended if he didn't offer me some. (Which has happened before!) But now, after nearly 2 months, he sees that I mean business, so he no longer tries to entice me with his junk! :)Leslie Harrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12084393882026836564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645488627416278666.post-47660877545829731822010-05-27T14:39:36.054-07:002010-05-27T14:39:36.054-07:00Thanks guys! It is so reassuring to know that I&#...Thanks guys! It is so reassuring to know that I'm not alone here! And you've given me some great advice!<br /><br />I definitely think food can be just as much a "drug of choice" as any other substance. Addicts come in many forms! It just so happens that my husband and I have the same love of food.<br /><br />He's a great man, and I know he's not intentionally trying to sabotage me. This is as much of a lifestyle change for him as it is for me since we've always been "partners in crime" if you will.<br /><br />He'll come around, but until he does, I'm just going to have to rely on myself! And YOU!brandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08244801121522508271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645488627416278666.post-62871351945456466432010-05-27T14:21:38.259-07:002010-05-27T14:21:38.259-07:00I totally know how you feel! My husband doesn'...I totally know how you feel! My husband doesn't seem to understand what I am trying to do. ACK! I just have to know that I have control of ME.Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06756009131950569480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645488627416278666.post-25279722701722398232010-05-27T12:14:07.143-07:002010-05-27T12:14:07.143-07:00One of our topics recently at my weight watchers m...One of our topics recently at my weight watchers meeting was family members that sabotage our healthy living plan, sometimes intentionally, sometimes unintentionally. Definately sounds like your husband is an unintentional saboteur! Just keep reiterating to him that you appreciate his thoughtfulness at getting you a treat, but that from now on, you'd prefer a different kind of treat, etc. I have to do that with my mom ALL the time. For so many years, food was a main way we showed love--I baked you this cake because I love you, etc. I have to keep reminding her that I appreciate that she's thinking of me, but that right now, I'm gonna pass on the cake!Tealehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01994083331228276203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645488627416278666.post-30787731681175437592010-05-27T10:30:07.809-07:002010-05-27T10:30:07.809-07:00It's interesting to see someone compare food a...It's interesting to see someone compare food and drugs/alcohol. I consider myself to be a food addict these days, with an inability to "just say no" when I'm in certain situations so the only thing I can do is avoid putting myself in those situtions.<br /><br />You're right, you have to accept that your husband won't support this and then do it for yourself. It's sad, but it sounds like it's your reality.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645488627416278666.post-2866124402381610892010-05-27T10:16:31.343-07:002010-05-27T10:16:31.343-07:00I go through the same thing ALL THE TIME with my d...I go through the same thing ALL THE TIME with my dear sweet Tom (who himself will always be a recovering addict of things other than food). He's always suggesting fast food or ordering in ... and rarely do I say no and rarely do I think far enough ahead to order something not horribly detrimental. I quit drinking when he did to make it easier on him. Well, technically, I quit because I got pregnant but I KEPT not drinking because it would be easier on him. Think he could quit with all the crap food???<br />(Oh, and consider yourself "fanned"!)karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03140525208481352659noreply@blogger.com